We talk constantly about social, cultural, sexual, health issues - no secrets. If you are ever going to have someone in your life, your children come first until they have started their own life. My spouse feels we need to trust her and "supervise" the relationship, that it is better to have them in our sight, rather than force a break up and have them sneaking around since they already are around each other. And she is working very hard to break down my barriers from my previous relationships and the women who have hurt me, so that I can love her with as much intensity as she loves me. At first, I was like great this is going to interrupt my day completely, my boss told me I had to check on this guy and make sure the work was getting done, etc. I explain this to him every now and again and he starts showing more attention and then backs off again. Do not encourage violence or criminal behavior, even as a joke. He's had a bit of a sketchy past which the parents are concerned about , but he has been completely open and honest with me from the get go. We like a lot of the same music, same movies and same things in general mini golf is our next date and we are both psyched. He was honest with me about everything he shared and treated me better than even the members of my family. I leave for basic training in May, so I am not sure where this will go, but where ever leads I am fairly certain it will be wonderful!